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Wednesday, 15 October 2014

Movin' on up North! Movin' on out!


A week ago I went up north for an interview for a job in an area I am super keen to work in. It took 5 hours 14 minutes on the train, and seeing as I was so sure that I wouldn't get it I didn't really think too much of the distance. Fast forward to today and I got the phone call to tell me they are delighted to offer me the job! At first I admit I may have done a bit of manic dancing and crazy squeeling. By the time I grilled my toastie and sat down to enjoy my lunch I was in a totally different mood.

I applied for this job knowing full well it was ooop North, but when I submitted my application I didn't really think I would get it. It's a great job in an area I am really interested in, my dream job? Maybe not, but even I am not clear on that yet! Post interview I tried desperately not to get too excited - I've been burned by rejection before and did not want a repeat! So I busied myself in my TEFL course (to teach English abroad) and instead begun investing my excitement into those prospects and travelling the world.

When I left to go to university, I knew that I would be coming back at the end of my degree. University was never a permanent move. I spent 3 months at home over the Summer and a month each at Easter and Christmas. So while I was away for most of the year, it was only 10 weeks at a time then I would be right back to my family and home like nothing had really changed. With a job, I won't be able to spend time at home all the time. Sure I get a little holiday off but between chillaxing, seeing family and my travel dream, when is it all going to fit?! Even the weekends will be hard - repeat 5 hour train journey....

I did long distance relationships with a boy. It didn't work particularly well. I know long distance with a family is 98% different, but the principal is the same. Every time we met up we made an event of it. For that one weekend we made ourselves do stuff to make it feel as though we'd spent our brief time wisely. We never just 100% chilled out, spent a day lounging in bed, spent the day in PJs watching crappy films. We never got to just phone each other on whim like 'Want to go watch a movie?'. I am worried this is what it will be like. No more random trips to M&S cafe, no more defrosted home made soup because no one remembered to cook dinner instead carefully constructed whole family activities.

I am excited to finally start earning my own way, to have my own place and have my 'purpose' in life. 

BUT
I am sad that I won't get to snuggle my cats everyday.

I am scared that my dreams to travel are really at risk here. I keep saying to myself that in a couple of years I can take a year to travel, but is there time?

I am scared that this is the road for me now, no more adventures or crazy things to do.

Most of all, I am scared that I will love my job there, find (possibly hehe) my soulmate there, settle down there, buy a house there, have kids there and never see my mum and dad.

So there we go. That's long. I am sorry just had to get it out that's why blogging is so amazing. Plus I need to hear all your tales of flying the nest good and proper to help me!
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16 comments:

  1. I moved to Manchester (all be it for uni) but it is 3-4hrs away from home (dependent on day of travel) and have never looked back. I stayed here for work and now own a house and have a little life up here! You'll love it. Yes it's scary, when all my friends moved back home after undergrad and I stayed behind to work here it was like getting to know a new place all over again. Join in with after work get togethers, maybe see if there's a local blogging group (admittedly blogging helped me meet new people here) and just talk to people! Enjoy your next adventure- it will be worth it :) x

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  2. Big moves and life decisions are always scary. I moved away from East Yorkshire to Newcastle for Uni and I always thought that city would be my forever place. Then I ended up in Michigan, it's a long way from family and friends and part of me was really scared to call this place home but I ended up loving life here more than I ever thought and brought my first house here. As for traveling, there'll always be time as long as you make time. A number of my university friends are as we speak traveling around the world after having a good five years in long term jobs. Sometimes you just have to roll with what life throws at you and make the most of it. Good luck and congrats on the job too!

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  3. Your move makes my move look tiny! Thank you for your advice :) It sounds stupid because lots of people move away, but just knowing people who have makes it feel a bit more easier! x

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  4. Thank you! If you know of any blogging groups near to you let me know! I won't be too far from Manchester :) x

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  5. Check out the MCR bloggers FB group- https://www.facebook.com/groups/405261116261578/ :)

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  6. Wow that is a long drive... And I thought my 30 minutes to work was bad! I live near my parents and siblings, I could never live far away from them. I like seeing them on random days and not having anything planned, just stopping by and annoying each other. My advice would be to not go but that's just me because I could never be away from my mom. I am married btw and I love my husband but my mom is my mom haha she won't be with me forever so I like to spend all the time I can with her. Good luck with whatever you choose to do :)

    Jessica
    the.pyreflies.org

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  7. I think it's a great idea! I have moved lots but a couple of years ago from New Zealand to London and am very happy I did it! It wouldn't have given me the opportunities I have and I did meet my boyfriend here which has locked me in place! In terms of travelling, you don't necessarily need to take a year off - this year I have done so many holidays but just weekends and weeks away and it has been great! x

    Jasmin Charlotte | UK Lifestyle Blog

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  8. This is something that scares me. I'll be graduating next summer, and the kind of job that I want to do is more available up here near the lakes. My family home is only a measly 2 hours away (compared to your 5!) but yeah, less family time and you're properly on your own in the big scary world!
    But anyway, welcome to the North ;)

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  9. I'm sure it will all go smoothly for you. I live 6 hours away from my family and I do miss them but I know I'm always welcome so any time I want I can make the journey and visit them. It even feels like a holiday visiting as they all take time off to show me the sights and we do lots of cool things. Plus you can call your family or Skype them as much as you want. Good luck although you won't need it, the North is amazing.

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  10. Yay for the new job! It's scary making a huge move like but one day, I'm absolutely certain you'll look back and wonder what on earth you were worried about. It doesn't matter where in the world you are as well, you'll always have all of us here online cheering you on! :-) xx

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  11. Congrats on the job and you will be fine!! 5 hours by train? Try 24 hours by plane. If you want it to work it will, and never forget - skype is your friend :) Have fun.
    Claire xx

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  12. Thank you!! Will definitely check it out :)x

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  13. That is a huge move! Am definietly doing the holiday plan, already planning my list :)

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  14. That is a good point, hopefully I'll be able to enjoy my hometown more! x

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  15. Thank you Louisa :) Sad thing is I might not be able to make the meet up! :(

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